Archive for January, 2010
Is Bad-Mouthing Your Ex Helpful or Harmful?
Jan 30th
Bad-mouthing your ex can feel really good when you’re pissed off or hurting. But be careful when and how you do it. You could be hurting yourself and those around you. It’s a big no-no in front of your kids. Don’t do it!! I don’t care what your ex has done, DO NOT talk badly [...]
Divorce Self Care
Jan 21st
One thing that people often let fall by the wayside during divorce is their own self-care. You feel overwhelmed already and have trouble just keeping your head above water, and yet this is when self-care is the most crucial. If it’s hard to handle what’s happening in your life, it’s exponentially harder if you’re not [...]
Divorce Without Some Preparation Can Be A Very Slippery Slope
Jan 17th
I recommend giving some serious thought to a few key areas BEFORE you get divorced. In fact, the sooner the better. If you’re contemplating divorce or have made the decision, but haven’t actually begun the process yet, that’s a great time to do this. Start with these areas and certainly add others if they pertain to your situation and lifestyle: Finances (and property/assets), Legal, Communication, Child Custody and Care, Holidays and Special Events. Think about how you want these things to be handled between the two of you and what you expect in these areas.
Being Cold Sucks – Add Some Warmth to Your Relationship with Your Ex
Jan 9th
Brrrr….all this cold weather got me thinking about how cold we can be to each other sometimes and how that feels. It’s very much like how we feel when the temperature drops outside. Think about it for a minute. How do you react physically when you’re cold? You cross your arms, you tighten up, you [...]
I’m Done With Resolutions – What About You?
Jan 3rd
For most people, resolutions don’t last very long. Why is that? I think it’s because they’re usually based on something negative. Either we’re trying to quit doing something that’s hard to quit (smoking, eating unhealthy foods, drinking, etc), or we’re trying to start doing something because we’re unhappy with our current weight, lifestyle, relationship, [...]
