dealing with divorce

Divorce: Be Grateful

Expressing gratitude can be a life-changer and it’s so easy. You can simply say out loud what you’re grateful for or you can keep a gratitude journal in which you write them down. Naming what you’re grateful for can be a wonderful bedtime practice with your children. Each night, before bed, just take turns sharing [...]

Be a Role Model

Decide what you want your children to learn from you and how you want to be remembered. Be a role model to everyone around you. It’s time for divorce to be a more harmonious process and you can lead the way.

Divorce: Letting Go

I just turned 40 last week and I spent some time reflecting on my life so far – all the things I’ve done, some things I’ve not done.  What I’m proud of, what I’m not so proud of.  What matters most to me, what I want for this next year of my life. I also [...]

Be the Karate Kid in Your Divorce

What do divorce and the Kung Fu have in common?  Well, I watched the movie Karate Kid (the new version) with my daughter the other day and there are some good lessons in there.  Dre, the Karate Kid, tells his mom that he’s going to be learning Kung Fu and she says something like “what [...]

Divorce: Don’t Act Out of Fear

Dealing with your ex as you go through the divorce process and try to figure out how to co-parent now that you’re no longer together, can be frustrating to say the least.  You may be asking yourself the following questions: Why can’t (s)he be on time?  Why won’t (s)he spend more time with the kids?  [...]

Divorce: Is Happiness A Choice?

Divorced Happily Ever After.  That’s the name of my business and I get a lot of remarks on it, along with some laughter.  I’ll admit, it is a bit provocative.  But that’s kind of the point.  See, I’m tired of all the negativity surrounding divorce.  I’m not saying there aren’t a lot of negative things [...]

Divorce: How To Really Listen To Your Children

Give your children the gift of really listening to them.  We all want to be heard and feel like someone cares about how we feel and what we have to say.  Being heard and validated can give your children confidence and a sense of safety when they’re feeling scared and uncertain. One of the simplest [...]

Divorce: Celebrate Your Successes Along the Way

We all tend to be good at finding every single little thing we haven’t done perfectly and going over in our minds how we might have done things better or differently.  Our inner critic gets a lot of action and a lot of attention.  When we’re going through a challenging life experience like divorce, this [...]

Who Are You Being in Your Divorce?

One of my mentors often says “How you do anything is how you do everything”.  And I think she’s got a valid point.  Think about it for a minute.  Let that sink in. Think about other people you know or have come across (it’s always easier to see things in other people than in ourselves [...]

Divorce: Start A New Tradition With Your Kids

Many families have traditions, like an annual family trip to a special place, or a special celebration on Christmas Eve, or a Friday night eating place.  Maybe you’ve been spending every Thanksgiving with your in-laws or make a trip each year to Disney World because your spouse’s best friend lives in Orlando.  Maybe your spouse [...]